If you’ve always done it that way, it’s probably wrong

Many people desperately cling to the past or present. They hang on to
what’s comfortable, ignoring the signals that they may need to change. Complacency is the emotional equivalent to hypertension - a
silent killer of many seemingly healthy relationships. As much change can be exciting, people are predisposed to equilibrium - read: maintain the status quo.

And, I’m as guilty as the next person.

Problem is, this predisposition is not well suited to building a long-term relationship. Over time people DO change either because they want
to or because it’s thrust upon them. Sometimes the changes are so
subtle they’re unnoticeable. But after a while they add up and the person you thought you once knew is now somebody different.

If you’re in a relationship for the long haul, pay close attention to what’s going on around you. If your GF/BF is changing at a faster pace than you are, you could be headed for trouble. Take a hard look at your routines and see if they’re out of synch with your significant other (SO). If you notice that the things you used to do together have
become less fun and interesting, take it as evidence that you probably need to start doing some things differently yourself. Don’t be tempted to try to keep things the same - what you resist, persists. Instead, seize the chance to re-energize your relationship by surprising your SO with a new experience. Let go of the past and grab hold of the future lest you wake up one day to find your SO has moved on without you.