2. Why do people shy away from tough conversations? Whether it’s talking to your girlfriend about taking that Vegas weekend with your bros or asking your boyfriend to cease and desist the excessive PDA, many choose to skirt the issue hoping it will go away… It never does. You can either pay now or pay later. Paying later is more emotionally costly because you’ll likely stress over the conversation that you eventually WILL have vs. dealing with the issue immediately. Not to mention, your SO will appreciate it more if you don’t let whatever is bothering you fester any longer than necessary.

    If you decide to man-up, here’s what you do. Stick to the facts and the impact the person or issue is having on you. Your best course of action is to separate the issue from the person - don’t make it personal. This may not be possible if the person IS the problem (as opposed to the person’s BEHAVIOR). It’s OK to be upset with the behavior, less so with the person, unless it’s an ongoing problem that’s gone unaddressed.

    Deliver the message clearly and get to the point… Pronto! Then, give your SO time to absorb it. Don’t expect immediate acceptance of what you’re saying. But, do ask the person if they understand what you’re saying. Pat yourself on the back for having the courage to raise the issue then let the chips fall where they may.