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Where’s my lid?
There’s a saying, “there’s a lid for every pot”. In the dating world, this loosely translates to “there’s someone for everyone”. A lot of my single friends lament that they can’t find the right guy or girl. Having found my true love, I feel for them. I really do.
Like the saying, I do believe there is someone for everyone. After all, in a world of nearly 7 billion people and healthy biodiversity, the odds are in our favor. However, this assumption is predicated on another important adage, “beggars can’t be choosers”. If your standards are unachievable given what you have to work with, you can’t necessarily expect to find a good fitting lid for your pot (think tea kettle lid and lobster pot).
This isn’t about looks or smarts or money. And, it isn’t to say you shouldn’t hold out for Mr. or Ms. Right. But, it does mean that you should take a good hard look at what you’re bringing to the party vis a vis what you expect in a potential mate. If there’s a big discrepancy, don’t ignore it. (note: the discrepancy goes both ways - many people sell themselves short and wind up with a loser when in fact they deserve much better). Rather, face up to it and come up with a plan to address it. This could include resetting your expectations, improving yourself in some way, or even deciding you’re better off single.
Your lid may be out there but it’s going to require some introspection on your part to first figure out what kind of pot you are.
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