Stop fixating on a future that’s uncertain

Things will be perfect once we are married, once he gets that promotion, once he settles down and stops going out every night, once we have kids, once we make more money, once we move to the bigger place….” Sound familiar? Perhaps you too have taken your current relationship and painted it with dreams until the perfect rosy picture unfolds in your mind.

Or, maybe you’re the opposite kind of girl. Have you ever thought that your current flame, while fun, kind, smart, polite and thoughtful, just isn’t going to cut it down the road even though he is meeting all of your needs today?

Stay focused on the fact that your relationship is happening right now. Take stock of how you are feeling and how your needs are being met based on your current circumstances rather than an imagined point on the horizon. If you are sitting at home waiting for Mr. Right to stop partying with his friends, or if you are spending day after day feeling like a million bucks with Mr. Right Now, you may benefit from taking a moment to adjust your lens.

[thanks to guest blogger, ChiCityChick, for sharing her sage advice]